Attachment.

Life is a tricky, funny thing. Often, once you think you have it all figured out, the universe will choose that second to pull the rug out from under you. As it turns out, complacency is the devil you don't see, the devil you invisibly lean on. The interesting thing is the devil is often warm, good-looking and possesses a smile that could melt glass. Even though you might be making all the wrong decisions, it feels so good to make them.


According to Buddhism, life is suffering. Suffering is caused by attachment. Thus, we rid ourselves from the attachment and we can ultimately rid ourselves from suffering.


Sounds simple, right? Cause, you know, I'm not attached to everything in the entire world.

What I have learned and grasped is that holding on to something so tightly you kill it, like popping the head off a dandelion, does nothing for your self esteem and for your attachment to said "thing." It is only in letting that thing go, understanding that they stay because they want to and not because they have to, that you can truly appreciate what you have. Constantly being in a push/pull struggle with want versus need versus dependence, ruins you in every possible way.

I always thought that old adage about the butterfly was a piece of shit. I mean, really. "If you love something, let it go?" Fuck that noise. If I love something, I'm holding onto it until it turns blue.


But the older I get, the more life I have in my years and lessons that I've learned, the more I understand that those who love you and are meant to be there will be and those that aren't, well, let em go. They should love and appreciate and want to stay by you without needing to be forced or reminded.

I'm pretty lucky to have found that.